Food is an essential part of the mourning process for African Americans. In their culture, cooking and sharing food is a way to honor the deceased and show empathy for the bereaved family. African American culture also has a tradition of bringing food to funerals, which can be snacks like sandwiches, salads, or casseroles, or main meals like jambalaya, grilled meats, or fried chicken. Sometimes, families may also bring the deceased’s favorite items to the funeral, such as books, toys, or collectibles. This helps to symbolically provide comfort that the person who died is still present in the hearts and minds of the family and relatives left behind.
The tradition of bringing food to funerals in the US has its origins in several European cultures, particularly German and Swedish cultures. In German culture, this tradition is known as “Kaffeeklatsch” or “Kaffee und Kuchen,” where the family and friends of the deceased come together to talk and share memories. In this group, snacks and drinks such as coffee and cakes are usually provided. The tradition of bringing food to the cemetery is still practiced in the German-American community in the United States and is part of the funeral culture that helps them through their grief.
Similarly, in Swedish culture, there is a tradition called “Kafferep,” where relatives and families bring food and drinks to share after the funeral. The Kafferep tradition often coincides with a shared lunch or dinner and can include a variety of foods, such as sandwiches, cakes, and desserts.
Besides bringing food, there are several funeral traditions that are unique to the southern part of the United States. One of them is the jazz funeral, which is a tradition of commemorating life and death with jazz music accompanied by dance. Jazz funerals are usually held after the official funeral ceremony is over and are a moment to gather, talk to one another, and remember the deceased. This tradition originated in the African American community and reflects the region’s rich music and dance culture.
Besides the jazz funeral, there is a tradition of cooking and distributing food to family and neighbors after the funeral. This is often done to help the bereaved family and to commemorate the deceased by sharing foods they like or cooking the family’s special food. Other unique funeral traditions that exist in the southern United States include funerals with rainbow dances, voodoo funerals, and funerals with distinctive religious ceremonies. These traditions aim to commemorate the life of the deceased as well as provide support for the family left behind.
Sometimes, people may choose to inscribe their favorite cooking recipe on their tombstone regarding their hobby while still alive. They share recipes with others as a way of passing them on to the next generation. This unique and touching idea went viral when Rosie Grant, a librarian who archives US graves, found several tombstones with recipes inscribed on them. The first headstone she found was that of Naomi Miller-Dawson, an African American, in Green-Wood Cemetery, Brooklyn. Grant immortalized the spritz cake recipe that is prominently displayed on Naomi’s grave. This Scandinavian cake is usually served as a dessert for Christmas.
In conclusion, bringing food to funerals is an important tradition in African American culture that helps to honor the deceased and provide support for the bereaved family. This tradition, which originated in German and Swedish cultures, has now become an integral part of the funeral culture in the United States. Funeral traditions in the southern part of the country are also unique, with jazz funerals, cooking and distributing food, and other distinctive ceremonies that commemorate the life and death of the deceased. Finally, inscribing a favorite recipe.