How many times did you praise your partner, baby, colleagues or your boss this morning? You're lucky if you did a lot of praise because it's very important in the development of your personality.
It brings happiness for the recipients because people who receive praise will feel socially and emotionally safe. Unfortunately, you don't realize the importance of a compliment. You just issue a compliment if there's a very remarkable event.
In fact, you can throw a compliment for every case, including the trivial thing such as neatness in a person's dress.
The neglect of this interpersonal award causes many failures in marriage and family breakdown. The same thing can happen in the world of work. Dissatisfaction of workers often stems from a lack of supervisor's attention to their work.
Praise requires at least two people: someone who gives and one who receives. By doing so, giving compliments is an interpersonally social interaction. You know a sense of gladness and happiness will be obtained after receiving a compliment. It turns out the giver experiences the feeling either.
Giving praise is more than just a way to smooth out relationships with others. The praise is good for the ego of the giver and the receiver because it's the booster.
The ego is a part of your consciousness that receives all the pressure and impression of the outside world. You'll feel sad if your ego is flat or torn due to hurting act or words. Conversely, you feel a lightening sense when your ego expands.
Either receiving or giving compliments makes your ego inflate.
It's easier to build ego by giving praise because you can't decide when you'll accept a compliment.
On the other hand, praise can reinforce personal identity. Firstly, giving praise is a real action and proof you're doing something and not just a spectator.
Secondly, giving praise is also the expression of your opinion. You state you're a unique person by daring to express an opinion. It also strengthens your personality and identity.
Thirdly, in giving praise, you say to the world you're here, and the observation you do bases your opinion. You unconsciously increase your prestige by doing so.
In addition to the psychological, giving praise is also an art you can learn. Techniques and the ability to do it reveal your personality and sensitivity.
You tend to give praise to other less if you're sarcastic or underestimating. You can't also see something in others that could be praised if you like gossiping, moreover if you're prejudicing and selfish. You ain't a kinda person trying to see the good in others.
Praise requires not only sensitivity and honesty, but also the intelligence to assess and differentiate one personality of the others. Certainly, you don't give the same praise indiscriminately to everyone you meet.
Learn and observe the people around you. What are the advantages to them, and what terms are they proudest of? Sometimes, the answer ain't as you'd originally expected.
A lawyer is famous for his debate techniques in the courtroom. Don't praise about his skill because his face will shine when you throw a compliment to his beautiful rose garden, for example, or a teacher proudest of her homemade cakes or her home decorating.
Compliments also know the gender. A woman tends to love it if you compliment on her appearance, clothing and style while a man does in terms of virility and ability. A woman likes it if you praise her intuition and ability to be sympathetic to the suffering of others, and a man is more satisfied if you praise his prowess in the business, achievements in the profession or excellence in sports.
Interestingly, everyone, regardless of gender, enjoys the praise which involves one's hobby than one's full-time job.
There's a good rule to follow as a first step: Think what terms you yourself like to be praised most.
Apparently, there're many ways to convey compliments. Indirect praise is the best alternative. In addition to revealing your creative thinking, this kinda praise is more sincere and delicate.
The act of asking can be another form of praise. You actually praise someone when asking for advice and how to do something.
However, don't give praise with certain strings attached. For example, you praise your leader in hopes of your career advancement. In the parent-child relationship, an insincere compliment like this can bring a heartache and disappointment.
Similarly, the false praise between spouses could erode the marriage itself.
The habit of giving praise will automatically make you put a genuine concern for others. You become more sympathetic and likeable. Perhaps, you don't have enough money and goods to be distributed to many people, but you can give a gift in the form of praise to others.
If you agree a good deed is one of the most important, necessary thing of this world, praise will certainly bring many blessings for the giver and the recipient. Start now and make giving praise a habit.
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