1. Provide time
A good parents-children relationship requires time that allows to assemble physically. No need is for hours. Importantly, you consistently spend time with them almost every day. With them, minimize distractions and concentrate your attention. Time is a good parenting milestone buffer.
2. Be good listener
When they know that you really listen to what they say, they'll be eager to share their feelings and thoughts. Conversely, if you degrade their ideas or diligently criticize their words, they'll withdraw and choose closer to their friends. Therefore, if you wanna have influence in their lives, be a good listener. They'll receive when you help to solve the problem.
3. Define clear expectation
Telling them what you expect to form good behaviors. Don't hesitate to involve them in daily work and help to accomplish tasks in a home environment. Most children will surely complain. So, you do have to try to make them happy to involve. Children who participate in the affairs of the household will grow the work ethic and, more generally, feel to be a part of the family.
4. Don't let guilt
Many parents feel guilty for working outside the home all day. As the compensation, they let the children misbehave and be undisciplined. Good parents are tough. Feeling guilty is a counterproductive.
5. Don't replace affection, time with money
It's important to teach them how to manage money. However, don't use money in lieu of time or your affection. Materialistic messages in television are easy to permeate them and awaken their desires to buy this and that. You make them always strive if they wanna acquire something. Something gained through work may be more pronounced in value.
6. Don't replace caregivers too often
One of the important psychological needs of the children is that they're nurtured properly and loved continuously. Therefore, you need a sitter. By using a caregiver, your anxiety will be reduced as long as you work. However, before handling them over, give the opportunity to create intimacy and closeness between the children and the prospective nanny. Replacing caregivers too often can harm them.
Oftenly, when parents abandon, the children get into trouble. Children don't just know from birth which good or bad behavior is. They need to teach and then monitor. Therefore, it's important for parents to know where the children are, with whom they are, and what they're doing. Indeed, children often complain that they're watched closely, but children not supervised also often feel, parents don't care about them.
8. Give more attention for goodness
We tend to pay more attention to children when they're annoying. Instead, it's much more difficult to pay attention to their good behavior. If you want well behaved children, give attention to the things you love about them. When children feel neglected, subconsciously, they'll behave incorrectly to attract our attention. Paying attention to them when they're good does require an effort.
9. Educate with penalty
Parents who work outside the home tend to experience fatigue and easily annoyed. Never punish a child when you're not able to control yourself. Use punishment to educate, not to vent anger.
10. Give example in relation
Children learn to relate from their parents. They also feel the safest for the parents that treat the mate one another well. So, the best thing you can do for children is to love your spouse.
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