Steps in Facing Distress

In addition to relaxation, there are many ways to prevent stress continued to become distress.

Strategies to cope with stress are with the approaches of problem-focused coping (PFC) and emotional-focused coping (EFC). If the PFC overcomes stress by solving the cause problems, EFC handles by eliminating the emotional burden.

There are steps that can be undertaken, among others:

1. Look for the reasons of your behavior on the current situation or in conjunction with the past. Don't just relate it to mistake yourself.

2. Compare reactions, thoughts, and feelings with the people in your neighborhood. This will help to assess the imprecision and relevance of the responses.

3. Find friends to share feelings, pleasure, and anxiety. Husband or wife is actually the best friend. Engage in a network where you can build, maintain, and develop social support.

4. Don't worry to get rejects when you express a desire to be their friend. Feel free to try again if your craving doesn't get a good response.

5. Don't attempt to create a brand to yourself, let alone give the attribute in the form of temperaments that are irreversible, chronic, and negative, such as stupid, ugly, uncreative, or unsuccessful. It's better to look for the source of unhappiness. Take constructive criticism on yourself. Also think what you can do in the future to find the real you.

6. Build confidence. Divide the positive feelings with others.

7. Inventory your privilege and uniqueness, also, the potential that you have to show to other people. Know your personal strengths and resources that'll benefit you.

8. Control your emotions whether you're happy or grieving, by the ways: distance yourself physically from the source of emotion; give the role to others in situations or conflict; when facing severe problems, use your imagination to gain perspectives to the future; or exchange ideas with people you value sympathetic.

9. Don't keep regretting past failures. Let bygones be bygones.

10. Learn from each failure because failure and disappointment aren't uncommonly to be an invisible grace which reminds us that the goal to achieve isn't right yet. Failure often prevents us from larger errors in the future.

11. If you see someone having troubles, give attention to him, and help to find a way out. It trains you into a person who cares.

12. When unable to help yourself or others in a state of distress, consult a psychologist or psychiatrist. Psychological disorders often lead to the physical.

13. Assume that every person can be helped when given the opportunity to discuss the problem openly with the psychologist or psychiatrist. Therefore, it's no need to feel that you're handicapped or mentally disturbed.

14. Set long-term goals, and think about five, ten, or thirty things you wanna do. Find some kind of alternative to achieve it. Enjoy the ride of your life.

15. Take time to relax, remember, enjoy a hobby or activity that can be done alone or requires the help of others by keeping to involve your touch.

16. Consider yourself as an active actor, at any time, able to change direction of your life as a whole.

Remember that during life, surely, there's a hope for a better, and as long as we care for others, ours will be better.

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