Many facts indicate, the majority of teens who have sexual intercourse before marriage come from less harmonious families or neglectful parenting.
They assume, sexual intercourse as a means to gain the attention that they don't get from their parents.
Openness of communication can be easily established in a harmonious family. Correct sex information can be delivered seamlessly to the children. Unfortunately, many parents feel uncomfortable and embarrassed when talking about sex to their children.
It happened because of the assumption that sex is dirty and taboo. In fact, sexual behavior is normal because we're sexual beings for the sake of human survival.
When and how do we provide sex information and education on child?
1. Age of 0-3 years:
a. Make them feel comfortable with their bodies in the way we wash genitals when they pee and bathe.
b. Teach which behavior may be conducted in public or not. For example are no naking when there are guests and always dressed in the room.
c. Teach anatomy differences of men and women. Create the right time to take a bath with parents.
d. Describe the process of the body, such as giving birth and pregnancy, in a simple sentence. For example, pregnancy means there's a new baby in the mother's stomach. Where can a baby be there? It's from father and mother.
e. Avoid feelings of shame and guilt to the body shape and its functions.
2. Age of 4-5 years:
a. Help children to understand the concept of privacy, and talks about sex are personal things. For example, children aren't allowed to be in the uncle's or aunt's room who wanna change clothes.
b. Teach which right from body parts and functions. Slang or play names would make the children confused and learn embarrassed to talk.
c. Explain how a baby could be in the mother's womb. For example, say that the baby came out of the liquid from the father's penis that went into the mother's abdomen.
d. Encourage your children to come to the parents to ask questions about sex.
3. Age of 6-8 years:
a. Stay to inform sex education on children though you're not asked. Make everyday events seen by the children in the environment for discussion. For example is if they know there's a pregnant girl without a husband.
b. Tell them about family values about sex to be cherished.
c. Provide basic information about sexual issues. Teach how to reject and avoid the people who try to touch obscenely.
d. Tell about the changes that'll be experienced when reaching puberty.
4. Age of 9-12 years:
a. Help them to understand puberty. Explain what'll be experienced by boys and girls at the age of puberty.
b. Respect their privacy but still support open communication. Don't peek or search their rooms.
c. Emphasize that their maturation processes are different from their friends. They don't need to lower themselves because, for example, their breasts haven't grown up.
d. Help them to understand that cognitively and emotionally, they're immature to have sex.
e. Be open to discuss contraception. Explain what it does and when to use.
5. Age of 13-17 years:
a. You can input the ways to express love to their partners without having sex.
b. Discuss the difference between emotional and sexual feelings.
c. Teach about family and religion values they should grasp.
d. Discuss the factors that should be considered prior to sexual intercourse.
e. Discuss unhealthy and illegal sexual behavior.
Keep in mind that sex education is the responsibility of the parents.
Dad and mom can take turns bathing along the children when they're aged under five, both boys and girls. Often, children aged under five wanna see the adult body without clothes.
Father and mother can help each other in explaining the reproductive process or discussing the differences between male and female organs.
Dad could tell more details on male adolescents about puberty process and explain that what they're experiencing is normal.
Mothers can explain in detail the process of menstruation and how to maintain the intimate parts to keep them clean.
Both boys and girls gotta understand what the opposite sex is experienced at puberty. Father and mother should be the one they can trust the most to obtain such information.
The above ways can be adjusted depending on the understanding the children can get. Dig what they already know about sex to straighten out if there are less precise. Clearly, now is the time, parents more actively provide information on the children before they acquire from not responsible sources.
Sex has become a daily phenomenon and thus no longer finds it taboo to talk with children.
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